Be my guest : insult me.

[wataya]

Listen, my friend. When you tell me that I can't understand, because I have no child yet, you are insulting me. I don't care how nicely you think you said it to me, but it's an insult. You're telling me to my face that I can't understand maternal love (or just love, BTW). You're teling me I am emotionnally deficient. This is an awefull things to say. Awefull. Shut up !

Comments

[lordofhaladin.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I'm sorry hon. but I do agree with you, when peeps say "you can't understand because..." it does make me mad, I mean, if I don't get something I can figure out the reason, I don't need peeps to assume taht I can't understand and the reason, I am guessing you feel the same way. *hugs again*

[wataya]

thank you

[madamekat.livejournal.com]

That is really terrible. Each person in the world sees and feels in a different way. No two people experience love the same no matter if they have children or not. I've had similar comments made to me. People with children have told me to my face I'm not really a grown up because I don't have kids. I don't have a "real" life. I'm 38, married, and have a house. I'm pretty sure I'm a grown up even without the husband and house!

[wataya]

That's interesting because later she told I was a 30 years old kid. I see that people all think in the same sick way when it came to women without children.

[green-martha.livejournal.com]

That is such a horrible, unfair thing to say... And so wrong ! For some people, if you're 10 younger than them, you're just a kid. Not matter if they're 60 and you're 50, no matter what you may have gone through and how you may have matured. That's just... gah can't find the words to express how irrate it makes me ! *grind steeth*

[green-martha.livejournal.com]

That just means she's unable to understand YOUR point of view. She's the deficient one in this. *hugs*

[sewaddicted.livejournal.com]

It sucks big time, and is totally not true. One of my good friends said that just cos someone like me doesn't have a child doesn't mean we have no maternal love &/or nurturing. We just have to channel it differently without a child.

[hohenstein.livejournal.com]

I sympathise-that comment was rude & totally out of line. (I went through years of "when are you & your husband going to grow up , have kids & accept your adult responsibilities?)

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[(Anonymous)]

Bienvenue au club... Certes on ne m'a pas encore fait cette remarque là, mais comme je suis plutôt de genre "en retard" niveau vie sentimentale, j'ai eu droit à plein de remarques du genre, très blessantes. Tu ne sais pas, tu ne peux pas comprendre. Mais les gens eux ne comprendront jamais comme c'est très dur aussi d'être dans la situation opposée parfois. Marié/célibataire, enfants, pas d'enfants... Mais mince! Chacun fait sa vie à la vitesse qu'il veut! N'importe quoi!

Fight! Les gens comme ça ne comprennent vraimenr rien. Ce sont eux les enfants. Quand tu es petit, tu n'as pas de pitié, tu tape là ou ça fait mal... comme cette personne qui finalement devrait peut-être grandir aussi!